Friday, April 16, 2010

The Rewards of Honesty

Yesterday my middle son (he's 13) and I were just finishing dinner and we were putting our dishes away when I asked him some questions about something or other and he replied "Would I lie to you?". Now normally I would have flipped out some reply like "Sure all the time or Yeah every chance you get", but without giving it much though I just said "No".

You could have heard a pin dropped (at my house that's considered a miracle). He stopped and just stood there, I thought he might cry and then he said, "That means the world to me and I will always rememeber that you feel that way. When I say that to my friends they all say yes and other statements, it hurts my feelings because I think I am a very honest person."

I thought about it later that perhaps I am too quick with flip replies without really first hearing the questions or statements being made. And though it may get a laugh it also might hurt someone's spirit.


  1. Aww, that's so sweet. I need to do the same thing. It's very easy to be flippant about many things, but kids are so literal and they really do take things to heart.

    You're a good mama.

  2. This is so true. My son is 12 and sometimes I forget and trade snide comments, and after awhile it becomes second nature. Thanks for reminding me!

  3. aww...a touching moment. gave me smiles.

  4. What an Awesome kid! It's true, I sometimes have to bite my teasing tongue with my girls.This is a good reminder.

  5. Wow... what a wonderful moment for you both. I bet you both will remember this conversation for a long time.

  6. Very sweet. I love that he said that.
    I am very quick with the sarcastic comment...this made me think!


    you are perfect in your own way,
    Happy Wednesday!